DEATH IS BUT A DROPPING OF THE FLOWER, SO THAT THE FRUIT MAY SWELL
I came across this wisdom in high school and since than, I have made use of it to console families in bereavement, and also when I was faced with personal tragedies of my own. Besides it having a very consoling effect it caries a very deep meaning. As I advanced in years and knowledge, attending sabaks I became more aware of the truth in contained.
Death is a thing not be feared by a true mumin, it is merely a turning of the wheel, for a better life in hereafter. Aqa Moula (TUS) repeatedly assures his followers, not to worry in the least. He is there to take us across to the place of bliss and bounties.
My writing this post is on the observation I have made on THE DROPPING OF THE FLOWER and by the time you finish reading the post, you will come to know, the purpose of my writing.
THE DROPPING OF THE FLOWER - death in many instances is very sudden, we frequently hear ‘nakh ma pan dard nohtu ‘ ‘jara chest ma dard thayu, dikro doctor ne bolavo gayo etlama 100 varas tamam’ etc: etc: You may also have come across many such sudden deaths, or death after short illness or hospitalization in your family or close circle.
In this post I want to share with you the agonies and pain, the high financial expenses, particularly of those families who are not well off, who somehow manage to live a decent standard of life. Their world is shattered if a medical tragedy strikes and to make matters worse, THE FLOWER all withered and shrinking, with no hope of revival clings on and on, so much so that the branch (the family of the patient) becomes vulnerable and weak.
I have witnessed the plight of many such families, the medical bills keep rising, and the outcome is obvious, the family knows and so does the patient and the doctor who is treating. If the doctor is an understanding and humanitarian, the medical bills can come down, but sadly it is not the case all the time.
I have seen families of terminal cancer and kidney failure patients, those whose financial means are limited, in very dire straits. I have witnessed business collapsing, means of livelihood curtailed. A compounding problem.
The answer lies in how best as a community we can help these families to overcome their predicament. Besides providing funds, there are many other factors that are very important, and I am sure there are people in our community, doctors, nutrient experts, specialists, who can come forward with their advice and expertise.
When can one discontinue with aggressive medical treatment of terminal patients ? Is it advisable for the patient to be kept on basic need based medical treatment?
How best to safeguard the families of terminal ill patient Here I am not talking about money only. How best to advice them on the course of action.
Is there a possibility of setting up updated Nursing facilities with medical equipments like Oxygen / drips etc: 2 –3 rooms well furnished having homely environment, having best nursing facilities, attached to Masjid in urban cities, or Musafirkhanas ?
Can a standard menu based on our community eating habits ( dal/chawal, moong pulao/sarki) having correct nutrient values be formulated by a few dedicated experts from our community, in this particular field.
Why I write this is because while surfing on The Cancer Project (www.cancerproject.org) I came across a revelation that estimated percentage of Cancer due to diet is 35% to 60%, followed by Tobacco 30% , Air & Water Pollution 5% , Alcohol 3% Radiation 3% and Medication 2%.
The site contains and exhaustive Menu, but as the food habits of our community is different, and as average families will not be able to afford it, it would be welcome if some dedicated group takes up this project.
Hope this post of mine, galvanizes dedicated group members to come forward. There is nothing to rush, we have time on our hand. I am very confident that when we will be celebrating the 100th Milad Mubarak of Aqa Moula (TUS) we would have achieved much.