Came across on Whats app a very thought provoking talk by a Muslim lady on Taqdeer, and could not resist the desire to share this insight and knowledge, with readers of my blog.
As it was an Mp3 file, requested my son to make a video and the pictures of pruned trees are the result of my reflection, on this wonderful talk. May Allah bless the lady, as I do not have her name.
Now for those who are familiar with Urdu /Hindi, I think hearing the talk will suffice. For those, who are not that familiar, specially for my English speaking friends , I will expound and at the same time, share my reflections with you.
The subject of Fate - Taqdeer has always been and exiting as well as a complex subject, Many divergent views are held by different sections and strata of society. Those who are successful in life, generally feel and advocate that 'Fate is in our hands, we are the makers of our destiny, and they go on and on ... many make a lot of money by writing motivating books and conducting talks, but at times, a tragedy strikes, life takes a different and unexpected turn, and it becomes difficult to cope.
On the other hand there are others, who are laggards in life, they do not put any effort, and blame it on their fate for the miseries and shortcomings of their lives.
The talk strikes a nice balance between Fate on one hand, and the 'free will' on the other.
The example of a tree is beautifully illustrated to make one understand the nuance of Fate and Free will.
Allama Iqbal says:
' sanobar ( a tree that grows to great height) bagme ajaad bhi hei
paa bagil bhi hei ( its roots are stuck deep in the soil)
inhi pabandi yo mei hasil ajadi ko tu karle'
So poignant and so very true. We should like the tree, although constrained should use our given free will to the optimum and make our life worth living. ALLAH will never question us on our limitations, for HE IS ALL KNOWING. However, we are answerable to HIM for the things we fail to do achieve, with the freedom He has so graciously granted us all.
On the other hand there are others, who are laggards in life, they do not put any effort, and blame it on their fate for the miseries and shortcomings of their lives.
The talk strikes a nice balance between Fate on one hand, and the 'free will' on the other.
The example of a tree is beautifully illustrated to make one understand the nuance of Fate and Free will.
Allama Iqbal says:
' sanobar ( a tree that grows to great height) bagme ajaad bhi hei
paa bagil bhi hei ( its roots are stuck deep in the soil)
inhi pabandi yo mei hasil ajadi ko tu karle'
So poignant and so very true. We should like the tree, although constrained should use our given free will to the optimum and make our life worth living. ALLAH will never question us on our limitations, for HE IS ALL KNOWING. However, we are answerable to HIM for the things we fail to do achieve, with the freedom He has so graciously granted us all.
Moulana Ali (SA) was asked by a seeker of knowledge about Taqdeer. Moulana Ali (SA) told the man to lift his leg, which he was able to do without any difficulty. Now he was told to lift the other leg, which in spite of his best effort, he was unable to do. Moulana Ali (SA) said that lifting of your first leg is 'free will' but your inability to lift the other leg, is Taqdeer.
Another very important aspect of Taqdeer is our complete acceptance and surrender not with a feeling of helplessness (what can I do, it is beyond my control) but with a sense of joyous serenity, which should come after having diligently tried our level best, having exhausted all possible options, coming to accept, with serenity and peace, that the condition in which one is, is because of Fate.
Not only that one should also have a firm belief, that although I do not know why in spite of my best and sincere efforts, things are not working to my advantage, or tragedy has struck me - the belief to have is that I KNOW NOT - ALLAH KNOWS BEST. I submit to HIM
The lady talks about a very poignant doa - only four words but so full of meaning.
'val rida bil qadr' to accept Fate with happiness. To embrace your Fate without sulking, without feeling remorse and sadness. As you embrace joyously the good fortunes, wealth and life's pleasures, likewise embrace the whatever Fate has in store for you.
As I took my routine morning walk, I was totally engrossed with the thoughts on Taqdeer, and my attention was riveted on the freshly pruned trees in the garden. The branches have been cut, the dead leaves have been removed, but the trees are not complaining, for these trees are for accepting their Fate knowing fully well, that whatever happens, is for their good and their growth. Withing a short period all the trees in my garden will be blooming, all resplendent, some with beautiful flowers, others all green with abundant leaves.
I stood there in front of my teacher, so to speak, and learnt a lesson in life. It is common for us to resent and be up in arms, when our peers and elders, who have our good in their heart, restrict us, do a little pruning, which in our Deen we call ' tamhees' and we are loath to accept, but as we advance in years and knowledge, the real value of that pruning if realized.
Presently we are celebrating the 102nd Milad Mubarak of our beloved Aqa Moula (TUS) and his mansoos A'li Qdr Mufaddal Saifuddin Moula (TUS) irshaad mubarak is to plant more and more trees, and also to keep them and lovingly tender them in our homes and work places.
So whenever you look at the trees, and for that matter if you reflect on all the natural elements, who are providers of our daily sustenance, the thing that will strike you first and foremost, that all them are willingly submitting to their Fate and the Will Of Allah. A life lesson indeed.
As I took my routine morning walk, I was totally engrossed with the thoughts on Taqdeer, and my attention was riveted on the freshly pruned trees in the garden. The branches have been cut, the dead leaves have been removed, but the trees are not complaining, for these trees are for accepting their Fate knowing fully well, that whatever happens, is for their good and their growth. Withing a short period all the trees in my garden will be blooming, all resplendent, some with beautiful flowers, others all green with abundant leaves.
I stood there in front of my teacher, so to speak, and learnt a lesson in life. It is common for us to resent and be up in arms, when our peers and elders, who have our good in their heart, restrict us, do a little pruning, which in our Deen we call ' tamhees' and we are loath to accept, but as we advance in years and knowledge, the real value of that pruning if realized.
Presently we are celebrating the 102nd Milad Mubarak of our beloved Aqa Moula (TUS) and his mansoos A'li Qdr Mufaddal Saifuddin Moula (TUS) irshaad mubarak is to plant more and more trees, and also to keep them and lovingly tender them in our homes and work places.
So whenever you look at the trees, and for that matter if you reflect on all the natural elements, who are providers of our daily sustenance, the thing that will strike you first and foremost, that all them are willingly submitting to their Fate and the Will Of Allah. A life lesson indeed.
Nurturing plants at home. Alternating between 'harkat' and 'sukoon' with the rise and fall of the wind, my home plants are growing - a life lesson learnt as I observed and reflected.
Not be goal driven all the time, but like the plants to live a life of ease, and when the winds are favorable, when opportunity knocks, to make the best of it. Alternating my life between 'ease' and 'effort' I will surely grow.
Appreciate the initiative taken by Pune Jamaat in free distribution of plants to the public and shop keepers en route of the grand Milad Mubarak procession as it wounds its way from Burhani Masjid to Husaini Baugh.

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Now to come to your question. The top 5 problems that couple face with long distant relationship.
1. Not accepting the situation that one has voluntary entered into. If a situation develops to live apart after living together, one can empathize, but here also if both the partners accept what is, the problem will be eased a bit.
2. Affluence. Contradictory but true. With affluence and materialistic mind set not 5 but a hundred problems arise.
3. Doubting nature - lack of faith.
4. 21st century gadgetry. With profusion of internet and 24x7 connectivity both partners tend to rant and take out their frustrations - the space gets restricted and flash points are more frequent. In the good old days when one depended on monthly mails these problems were not there. Each found ways to take control of their individual life, and in many 3rd world countries, strong family ties and other community factors provided the much needed balm in times of difficulty.
5.Lack of preparedness if both the partners know that they are entering into a long distance relationship.
I personally saw my first born after 7 months. Now days young fathers get all hyper if they are unable to be at the bedside when their wives are going under labor.
After one or two days they go off and than starts the fun of continues distant monitoring - nothing can be done, but frustration and anxiety pile up. I keep myself amused with such frequent real life situations now days.
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On a lighter note, observation does affect the outcome of an event. An observing parent can affect the outcome of his/her unruly child !!
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However, in their death which was not in vain I have enriched myself in many ways in the years that followed. Empathy - Spirituality - reaching out - accepting 'what 'is' - understanding - contemplation in short become more humane is what my boys have gifted me. Their deaths and our mental suffering and agony has profoundly impacted my life. I can feel and empathize with the suffering of others.
I have also learnt to soldier on and undertake social service with passion. My story LUCY ME will help in understanding what my 2 boys have contributed to my life. It is in respect of the community eating initiative started by our Spiritual Head.
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2. Such situations itself will make you helpless, and under such pressing circumstances, it is better to accept WHAT IS - the PRESENT - LET GO. All these are the choices in a sense, to accept ones fate. It can never create happiness - now that is a long shot, but surely it can infuse one with peace and calmness. As sages put it - 'to die consciously before death'
3. Definitely. See the world around you and the countless unhappy people, ever growing because of multiple choices.
4. Yes
5.Primarily ones own, he/she has to be willing to learn. Seek out sages and savants and put his/her belief in their teachings .It may help.
6. Yes would like to give a try, but not be aggressive. not a hammer and tong approach, but think it as challenge, see if something can be learnt. If the circumstances do not change, change the perspective.
7. I do not understand what is meant by economic of happiness, but this much I know happiness is separate from the economics of things consumerism, which does not give happiness but short term pleasure. Pleasure and gratification are not happiness.
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